Saturday, April 25, 2009

So... conflict anyone?

So I got a question for ya…
I try to embrace critique. It isn’t always easy, and it is sometimes a real fight with my pride. However, I think the benefits outweigh the cost, so I choose to open myself to criticism so that I can continue to grow and change.
When I feel like I am forced into a decision I don’t quite agree with, I want to pull that situation back out and examine it and see if I reacted correctly. This is nothing personal against anyone, I want to see and judge my actions. The bible says judge not lest ye be judged. I don’t want to judge, I WANT to be judged… Please judge me!
So if any of you are up for a good clock cleaning, BRING IT ON! I keep telling yall to be brutal, and no one will… Rip me to shreds… in love.
Please note, you are welcome to disagree with me, but that doesn’t’ mean I will change my mind, it will just mean we disagree. We can still be friends.
Ok here is the situation I was talking to a friend on MSN IM the other day, and she asked me if I save my conversation history. I said yes. As a security measure I have my im set to save all conversations. Mainly because I can be slow sometimes, some things take a day or two to sink in. If I have my conversations saved I can go back to them and look at what I said a few days later and see if I still agree with myself, or if I need to change my stance on that.
She got very upset, and promptly asked me to delete them. When I said no, she said I was being childish immature and disrespectful.
I said she simply needed to trust me that no one would ever see them, they are my conversations too, and are stored on a secure password protected laptop, that only I ever use.
Here is my question. Since my computer is secure and they were my conversations, was it my right to refuse to delete?
OR
Was it her right to DEMAND I delete them? (She said she was asking but she asked repeatedly and badgered me until I felt bullied into doing it, saying such things as “Well you are being selfish and immature if you don’t delete them, that is just childish.”
Oh, an interesting note, On MSN IM you can set it to save, but on Yahoo, it just saves them, and you can’t delete them…
Please vote and tell me what you would have done. I really want to know.

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